Spin Cycle – Compliments
This week’s spin is on compliments. I have to admit that is an area that sometimes makes me uncomfortable. Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE to compliment other people… I just don’t always feel comfortable receiving compliments.
I love getting them but at the same time I feel uncomfortable because I’m not sure how to respond. I get embarrassed and then I usually make a big joke which may make the person think I’m not appreciative, which I am, but it sounds like I’m not! See? Just right there, even THINKING about getting compliments I get all flustered and feel weird.
I wonder why that is? I know I’d much rather give compliments and I do appreciate being appreciated I’m just never certain how to respond when people take the time to compliment me. I have no problem gushing right along with the compliment-or if they are singing the praises of my husband or kids or parents or siblings. I’ll join right in and agree with them and even egg them on a bit but if the attention turns to me? I turn red and get all flustered and start stumbling over my words. Heck… I might even cry! Depending on what the compliment is!
I don’t know what is wrong in my psyche that I react that way. I’ve always been that way. I’ve never liked being the center of attention period, good or bad but when its effusive compliments I just kind of shut down. Sometimes I make sarcastic comments which really seems inappropriate (and it is) but I can’t seem to help myself. It’s almost like somehow I feel like I don’t deserve to be complimented? How’s that for self-prescribed psychoanalysis?
All I know is I like giving compliment and otherwise I have a love/hate relationship with the getting part. So, now that I’m good and uncomfortable just writing about it, nuff said!