The last few days my friend and I have been having phone conversations about things that really bother us. One of those things in particular is pity parties. Especially unwarranted pity parties. Or pity parties brought on by something that the person “throwing the party” has done themselves.
Another thing that has a tendency to get on my nerves (although I’m sure we are all guilty of doing it from time to time, myself included) is Vaguebooking. Do you know what that is? That is posting a status on FaceBook that is intentionally vague with the express intent of eliciting a response (in this case, one of pity) from your “friends”. I’m sure we all post vague or cryptic statuses from time to time. And for some reason when it’s for the purpose of being “cutesie” it’s okay. It’s when people purposely post something vague or cryptic for the sole purpose of having all their friends jump on their pity wagon that it drives me batsh*t crazy. And it seems some people are so good at it that they do it over and over and over, day after day after day. I guess that makes them expert pity partiers.
I know all of us get down in the dumps sometimes. I’ve felt like throwing myself a pity party lots of times lately! But I have thus far resisted the urge. It’s hard when you are down in the dumps or a little depressed to not pull other people into it with you. I have no problem with that as we all need reassurance that we are loved and cared about by our friends. It’s when there is a constant deluge of poor poor pitiful me status updates day after day after day and sometimes several times in the same day that it drives me insane. It almost makes me want to “de-friend” them but I wouldn’t do that because I know how it feels to be de-friended. And even when it’s not your fault, it doesn’t feel good and I don’t want to be the cause of making someone else sad.
And sometimes these same people bring it on themselves. Sometimes I wonder if they are truly suffering from some form of mental illness? If that’s the case then I guess I shouldn’t be angry about it and I should show a little more compassion because they probably can’t help it. But it still drives me crazy.
I know some people that suffer bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder can’t really help being the way they are. Or can they? It makes me wonder if some of those people really can’t see themselves in a true light. Can they not really tell how hard it is to be around them? Do they not realize that everyone around them feels like they are walking on eggshells? Or balancing on a tightrope and the least little disturbance is going to knock you off the wire or crush your eggs.
I’ve dealt with a lot of people with mental illnesses in my lifetime and I know it’s not easy for the person with the disorder OR their friends and family. Sometimes in the form of their extreme mood swings or sometimes even panic attacks. And it’s hard even after you figure out what the problem is to still be truly compassionate because it’s just as hard on you as it is on them. But please, no more pity parties or VagueBooking for that express “pity party” intent. I’m beginning to feel like I’m gonna be the one who needs mental help if it doesn’t stop!
Okay…. Anybody wanna jump on my pity train because I just realized how badly it sounds but I’m still pulling out of the station. I’m still posting it just in case those who are responsible may read it and BE responsible and STOP THE INSANITY! I don’t wanna be a guest at your pity party any longer. Stop the train… I want OFF!