I’ve been thinking about reunions and how to spin this subject for the resurrection of The Spin Cycle. And before I forget, Jen, THANK YOU so much
for bringing back the Spin Cycle. My Fridays haven’t quite seemed the same since you abandoned us!
I thought about writing about how I’m trying to organize our 35th high school reunion for the fall. Yes, I said 35! I know how old I am! I keep thinking about all the people who will be missing from this next reunion.
I started to write about how some of my girl friends and I have been planning to have a girls weekend out and how we
can never quite seem to get it together. It’s always a lack of time or a lack of money or both. Maybe one day.
But I kept coming back to families and reunions. How hard it is to get all of us together. I’m not even talking about the aunts and uncles and cousins… I’m just talking immediate family. How 3 years ago we had a family reunion over the Fourth of July weekend the month before my oldest daughter got married and how despite all our planning we still had one sibling missing so our family portraits weren’t complete.
I kept coming back to my mom and dad’s 60th anniversary party last summer and how thankful I am that ALL six of us got to be there together. Yes,
the first time all the siblings were together in years for a family portrait. And how bittersweet it is now since we will never again have all six of us together again. Little did we know then how short the time we had left all together. Little did we know that less than a year later our dear sweet brother, Monte, would be diagnosed with cancer and then less than 2 months later lose that horrible battle.
Looking back, I wish I had spent less time in the kitchen and more time actually talking with my siblings and other relatives. But I am so thankful that
because of circumstances (no job) I was able to spend the majority of my brother’s last couple of months helping out him and his family. I was able to spend some quality time with him, some of that time, even though in silence, I was able to just sit there with him, maybe holding his hand, maybe just enjoying the sun or the river together. I felt so privileged to spend that time with him.
I am so thankful that we were able to have my wonderful and talented friend from high school, Margie from Hatcher Portrait Design come to my parent’s anniversary party (even though it was her own anniversary) and capture the day in photographs and so thankful that we have our final family portrait to cherish.
I am looking forward to July 2 when we are planning on having a celebration of my brother’s life. The remaining siblings along with our parents and various other members of our family and friends plan to gather and share food and memories in his honor. No family gathering will ever be the same. Not just because he won’t be there because I’m sure in the past there might have been others that he wasn’t at but, THIS one and all subsequent ones I know he CAN’T be at and that is a HUGE difference. I miss my brother tremendously and cherish in memory the times we got to spend together.