Managing to be Unique

Mama's Losin' It

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It’s time for Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop again.  This week I chose prompt #1.) Something unique you love about your significant other. 

I’m sure it’s not unique but it is uniquely “him”.  He has a compassion for people that goes beyond the ordinary, especially with his employees.  He is a restaurant manager for a large national chain (which I am not at liberty to divulge) and being the general manager it would be very easy for someone in his position to take advantage of that and put off all the work on his assistant manager or employees.  He definitely does NOT do this.

He is probably the hardest working general manager I have ever seen.  He would never ask his employees to do something he isn’t willing to do himself.  If a table needs bussing, he’ll do it if he happens to be near it.  I have actually had someone say to me (knowing he was my husband) that he shouldn’t be bussing tables because he was the boss.  I replied to them that it was precisely the reason he DID bus the tables if he needed to.  He leads by example and by doing whatever needs to be done, he shows the other managers and his employees what he expects of them and that everything that needs to be done is a joint effort.  They know he’s right there in the trenches working with them and for them.

He actually trains his servers personally.  He teaches them precisely how to handle customers and take care of their needs.  This way they know from the beginning the correct way to do things and if they don’t make good tips, he takes it as a personal affront that he failed in training them.  He is very hard on his employees, expecting them to dress precisely the way he trained them to and if they don’t he has no qualms about sending them home.  But they all know exactly what he expects. 

He possesses a unique ability to fire people to where I think they would actually thank him because they know he is going to do everything in his power to make things right and if he fires them, then he has already done everything and explored every avenue and they had to have done something wrong. 

He is very compassionate in his approach to his employees.  He takes their welfare very seriously and tries to make sure they make enough to meet their bills.  We had a very extended conversation a few weeks ago because he was upset that with the economy the way it is, his servers are not making what they are accustomed to.  My take on it was that it isn’t HIS fault that the economy has taken a nose dive, but, he takes personal offense that his servers are struggling to make ends meet.  He was almost inconsolable that he couldn’t do more.  He is vigilant in making sure they get the hours they need but not to the detriment of the company.

He really goes above and beyond for his employees and in return, I think most of them would do about anything he asked of them.  He not only helps out his employees but he also helps out the community.  He helps out local schools with fund raisers and gives gift certificates to local schools for their teacher of the month program.  There is one school in his area that is very impoverished and he knows lots of those kids don’t get to eat out a lot so he occasionally will send meals to the school for the same price as their school lunch to make sure they get a treat because he knows in their home life they would never be able to afford to eat at his restaurant.

He helps out with the Boys and Girls Clubs and Big Brother organizations.  He helps out with local law enforcement and tries to make sure police officers eat at a discount.  When we lived in Virginia, he fed the local minor league baseball team almost every day because he knew those guys couldn’t afford it.  He is charitable and hard working.

One thing that has always been a sort of bone of contention between us is that he works too hard.  He is a workaholic and when he was an assistant manager he worked like crazy because he said he always wanted to make sure his Manager got his time off.  Now that he is the general manager, many weeks he only takes one day off and sometimes none at all because he says he wants to make sure his assistants get their days off.  When I bring up that as an assistant he wanted to make sure the manager got his days off, didn’t that mean HE should take his time off now?  He always says “well, I remember what it was like as an assistant so I want to make sure my guys always get time off”.  I guess the shoe is always on the other foot.

Bottom line is that he is selfless and always puts others needs above his own.  I think that is why people love to work for him even though he is hard (strict) on his employees.  They know he will take care of them.  I don’t think I have ever met anyone he worked for or who worked for him that didn’t love him (with the exception of one of his ex VP’s at another company who was intimidated by hubby’s size since he is almost 6’8” and this guy was like 5’6”).  I know that no one could ask for a better employee or employer and I could not ask for a better husband.


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20 Responses to Managing to be Unique

  1. Mrs.Mayhem says:

    Your hubby sounds like a great guy!

  2. auntbethany says:

    My “guy” does that too! He is always looking out for others, and will sacrifice his own happiness for that of his friends. He is extremely considerate and can “read” me like no one else can. Sigh…I loved reading this post, because now I’m inspired to write one about my guy!

    Came here from Mama’s. I hope you can check out my entry, too!

  3. Ron says:

    What an awesome tribute!

    “He leads by example.”

    And THAT is a prime example of WHY he is a great manager. He doesn’t just delegate (like most managers do), he ‘manages’ by getting his hands dirty.

    And yes, that’s SO unique!


    Have a great day, dear friend!


  4. Your husband is a “stand up” guy!

  5. Peg, your husband is a true “stand up” guy! Too bad there aren’t more like him.

  6. NikNik says:

    What a lovely post about a wonderful manager, husband and father!

  7. Carol says:

    How fortunate you are. And how fortunate he is to have a wife that loves him so much!

  8. suzicate says:

    D is a wonderful man! You are both well deserving of each other as you both are deserving of the best. This is a very beautiful,loving, and honest tribute to the man you love!

  9. terrepruitt says:

    Awww. Like Ron said, “What an awesome tribute!”

    What a great guy and what a great way to say thanks (your post).

  10. Mrs.Mayhem says:

    His eulogy does sound as though he put a lot of thought into it. It sounds very moving.

    It is so unsettling when a healthy, vibrant person dies suddenly. It’s wonderful that your husband helped to make such a difficult time easier for her family.

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