What do you want to be remembered for?
This was one of the recent topics put out there for postaday2011. I find this a very interesting topic. I could go funny and say what a friend of mine once said. She said she was going to have engraved on her tombstone “I told you I was sick!”
Well, I don’t really want to be known for being sick in life or in death. I don’t consider myself a whiner and would hate to be remembered as such. I’d rather be remembered for something positive. I don’t want to be famous and I don’t need anything grandiose. When I’m gone I’d just like people to have positive thoughts come to their mind when they remember me.
I want to be remembered as a good person, a good wife and a good mother. I know I haven’t always been the best wife in the world but I try to be. There are times when I could have been a much better wife but I do try. I love my husband with all my heart and hope that he thinks I have been a good wife to him. I hope that he always knows that I have always tried even though there have been times I considered myself a failure as a wife.
I have always tried to be the best mom possible. There were times I considered I was a failure at that too. The times I forgot important events in their lives, like the time #2 was being honored at the Board of Education and I completely forgot. Yeah, I deserved the worst mom award for that one. The times I lost my temper with them and yelled or worse spanked them. Spanking them if they deserved it I don’t regret but then times I have spanked them unwarranted, like when I spanked #2 for something #1 did because she said #2 did it. Yeah, worst mom award again. Poor #2… that’s twice for her. Or when we got #1 out of bed at 1 in the morning (on a school night) to accuse her of taking drugs because we found a crystallized Tic Tac in her back pack? Or when I missed when #3’s cheerleading squad won the regional championship because I was in Virginia attending a concert with my cousin? Yeah, they were all times I should have gotten worst mom award.
But I look now at what wonderful mature young women they have turned out to be and I know I did something right. I know I couldn’t have always been the worst mom in the world or there is no way they could have turned out to be the excellent human beings they are. They are smart, confident, compassionate and loving of others. They are meaningful members of society so I must have done something right. I want to be remembered as a good mom.
I want to be remembered as a good person. I don’t purposely hurt anyone else. I try to make a conscious effort to help others. There have been times that I know I have hurt people but not because I was trying to. I’m not perfect and I don’t want to be remembered as such. I’m imperfect and have many flaws but that doesn’t mean I’m not a good person. I think I do my part as a meaningful part of society and I think I contribute to the greater good. I try to make the right choices and not harm others. I give to charity. I try not to purposely bring harm. So I want to be remembered as a good person.
I don’t think that’s a lot to ask. I don’t want to be famous, or an actress or singer, or philanthropist or public speaker or famous athlete or anything like that. I just want people to know I’ve done the best I can and that I am a good wife, a good mom and a good person. How do YOU want to be remembered? And how will you remember me?