December 5, 1981 seems like a life time ago in another universe altogether. Today is the 29th anniversary of the day I said I DO to my wonderful husband. I just wanted to take this moment to thank him for the best 29 years of my life. I can’t even imagine what my life would be like without him and I don’t want to think about that either. He is without a doubt the nicest, kindest, most loving gentleman I have ever met.
Considering how hard I had to stalk him to make him think he caught me and how short a time we knew each other before we got married I think we’ve done pretty well. Of course it hasn’t always been a bed of roses. What marriage has? But we persevered and worked through our problems and came out the other side stronger than before. I thank him for putting up with me. I know I’m not easy to live with. Heck…. Sometimes I can’t even stand myself! I know I have annoying habits and can be quite a piece of work but he endures. That’s the best way to describe putting up with me. He endures and usually with a smile on his face.
I am in awe of him every day. Especially considering what kind of childhood he had. He is a hard worker and a good provider and I know he loves me with his whole heart. Because he’s such a hard worker there were lots of times when the kids were little that he wasn’t around because he was working but I know that they know he loves them wholeheartedly. One of the first things we talked about when we realized we were getting serious was our desire to have children one day and how we didn’t want our children to have to go through what we did as children. Especially what he went through. He said he wanted to make sure before we got married that there would never be a divorce because he’d never want his kids to suffer like he did because of his parent’s divorce. I felt the same way about divorce but for the opposite reason. My parents just celebrated their 60th anniversary and I wanted to aspire to that. I want to be able to look across the table in my old age and still look into the eyes I looked into 29 years ago when I said I do. Because I still do.
I still get those butterflies sometimes even now like I did back then. I can still say I married my best friend. I can still say now that I am a better person than I was when I met him and I am a better person with him than I would be without him. He makes me want to be a better person. He inspires me to do things I never felt I could. He inspires me to want to be a better wife, a better mother, a better human being. One of our family adages is to always leave a place better than how you found it. That can be on an everyday small scale, like cleaning up after yourself when you go to the park on a picnic instead of leaving your trash for someone else to clean up to trying to be a better human and leave the world in a better shape than what you found it.
His example inspires me. He inspires me. Not a day goes by that I don’t know without a doubt that he loves me, with every fiber of his being. I couldn’t ask for a better husband or a better friend. I know without a doubt what a lucky woman I am. And today I want to take the time to let him know just how much I love and appreciate him and all the things he does for me and our family. You are a great man and I am so proud to be your wife. Always and Forever. I love you.