My husband’s brother visited us for a few days this week. Not nearly long enough but we really enjoyed his company. While he was here we didn’t really GO out and do anything. I cooked dinner one night and hubby cooked the other and we just sat around watching TV and talking and I really enjoyed his company.
One night during our evening conversation he said something that has stuck with me and really been bothering me the last couple of days. He was talking about his daughter and her friends. He was telling us about her best friend and how they had me this girls “parents”. He said the very first time he had ever met this girls mom, she said something to the effect of “That’s my daughter…. Well, she not my real daughter. She’s adopted.”
I was floored. Absolutely horrified! How could a parent say something like that about their child! I mean, come on! You may not have given birth to the child, but, she is YOURS nonetheless. In fact, I would think since you asked for her rather than just by chance found yourself pregnant, I would think that would qualify her as really being your real daughter. Can you imagine how this poor child feels?
Not only that, but, apparently the mom is divorced from this child’s adopted father and is now married to a man who wants absolutely nothing to do with any child and barely tolerates her presence. There is NO interaction between them. They don’t talk. He allows her to stay in the house because he is married to her adoptive mother, which I am sure he uses every chance he gets to remind her of.
It makes me want to go find this poor girl and wrap her in a big hug and bring her home. Apparently they are extremely strict on her which leads me to believe that as soon as this child is able she will be gone from them and never look back. I just don’t understand. Seriously. He says she is a very sweet child and very mannerly but obviously wanting of affection and acceptance.
Then he goes on to tell me the story of another man he knows who had tried and tried with his wife to conceive a child and they couldn’t so they adopted a child. I know the child was older than a baby but not sure how old but they had adopted him and when he was about 7 years old (I think he said 7) the wife found herself pregnant so they “turned him back in” to the state. I’m sorry… I didn’t realize they had a return policy on children! Are children like goods now that you purchase from the store? If you take it home and don’t like it you can just return it? Like a defective play toy or something? Oh, I’m sorry I found out someone else is going to give us a “Tommy” so we won’t be needing this one anymore. You can have it back.
WTH is wrong with people? Children are not possessions and they are not returnable. Once they are yours, I think they should pretty much be yours forever! Even if they are “damaged goods” you should not have the option to turn them back in. I’m sorry but this has been bothering me for days now. Am I the only one incensed by this?