Today I was checking my emails and a very good friend of mine had sent me this one:
A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her neighbor hanging the wash outside.
“That laundry is not very clean,” she said. “She doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.”
Her husband looked on, but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang her wash to dry, the young woman would make the same comments.
About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband: “Look, she has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this.”
The husband said, “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows.”
And so it is with life. What we see when watching others depends on the purity of the window through which we look.
At first, after reading this, all I could say was WOW. I really hadn’t expected that ending to it. I had thought it was going to be one of those cutesy jokes and maybe that was actually what it was supposed to be but, it really hit a nerve with me.
This little story is SO true. So many times people automatically assume things about other people without investigating enough to learn the truth. We prefer to peer at others and the unknown through our own tainted glasses, peering through closed curtains and closed minds and jumping to the worst conclusions.
My dad has a saying: Sweep around your own back door before you start snooping around mine. That kinda goes along with that saying that when you point your finger at someone else, if you look closely (at your hand) there are three more fingers pointed right back at you.
So all in all, we are no better than anyone else and wasting our time finding fault with others means we are not taking the time to examine our own lives and our own faults and not working on correcting our own problems. It is so easy to sit in the comfort of our own home and point out the faults of others. It’s much harder to do something about it, whether that entails helping someone who truly needs help or taking the time to take corrective action to fix our own faults.
Maybe we should all take the time to clean our rose colored glasses and dirty windows so we can more clearly see that maybe it’s not our neighbors dirty laundry we need to be worrying about but our own.