The topic of this weeks Spin Cycle is RESPECT. I can’t help but immediately start singing Aretha in my head. Lucky for you it’s just in my head cause if you could hear it over there where you’re sitting it wouldn’t be pretty! I’ll let Aretha herself do that for you:
Seriously though, I have always kind of put respect and reputation side by side and hand in hand together. Your reputation is something that once you lose, it’s very hard to gain it back and the same with respect. Once you have lost someone’s respect, it’s very hard to get it back.
I was raised to give people respect first, whether they deserve it or not, and then, if it is not deserved or they do something to breach that trust, then the respect might be gone, but you still give the person courtesy. I, in fact, have that so ingrained in me that I find it hard to disrespect someone even when they are deserving of the disrespect.
I have a problem with people who have the opposite belief. I have met teens and even children who were so disrespectful of adults, especially those in authority like police officers and teachers that it actually sickens me. I have met teens who have told me that their parents had told them they did not have to respect anyone unless they were given respect first. Excuse me? WTH??? I mean, sure, even kids deserve respect but they have to give respect first, in my humble opinion. How can you expect a teacher to show respect to a kid if the kid is disrespecting them first?
I know in my own experience, if I had ever disrespected a teacher for any reason, even if they were wrong, I’d still be picking myself up off the floor. Maybe that’s part of the problem? I’m not saying people should always use corporal punishment but I think there is definitely a time and place for it and I think that kids today definitely do not get enough of that. I know my own kids were given their share of butt whoopings and I think they are better adults now because of it.
I know I had my share of those cans of whoop ass opened on me and I think I turned out okay. I respect my elders, my contemporaries and even those younger than myself. I feel unless you have done something to merit the loss of my respect I will show you respect and most likely even when you do something deserving of losing it I still will treat you with dignity and courtesy.
In other words, I think we, as humans, should all respect each other and if we’d all just follow the golden rule, we’d all get along a lot better and probably be a lot happier. If you want someone to respect you, respect others. This post was brought to you by Sprite’s Keeper and the Spin Cycle. Want to join in? Spin up your own post on respect and head on over to Sprite’s Keeper by Friday.