I have always thought that I looked like my dad. All the time when I was younger, I would go with my dad to this country store in our home town and the owner would say “Here come Pete and Re-Pete” (My dad’s nickname is Pete in case you didn’t get that.) And as far back as I can remember, no matter where I went in our little county I was going to run into someone who would say “Are you Pete’s daughter?” And when I’d ask how they knew they would remark something like “You look just like him” or “All I had to do was look at you”.
Then over the last 15 or 20 years more and more people are telling me that I look like my mom or HER mom.
So it makes me wonder…. Which IS it? I’ve also been told that I look like this sister or this brother and I think some of us look a lot alike but some of us don’t. My dad has hazel eyes and my mom has blue eyes. Both of my brothers have blue eyes like my mom, and all of us girls have some shade of hazel eyes like my dad (except one sister who has brown eyes like my grandfather did). I mean, I think you can tell we are all related…. But not sure how much we all look alike. Here are pictures of all of us… You tell me?
Heredity fascinates me. I have several friends who have biracial marriages and therefore biracial children. Several have black/white biracial kids and some of the kids look like they have no black in them at all and some look like they have no white in them at all but most are a good blend. I personally think that most biracial children are gorgeous, taking the best of both races, whatever they may be and making their own blend.
We have friends who have a Black/Mexican biracial marriage and they have three of the most gorgeous children you’d ever want to see. Their son modeled some. I used to tease him and my youngest saying they were going to get married and have the most gorgeous babies EVER. I mean think about it. The product would be part black, part white, part Mexican and part Asian. What a combo! Their son asked me “Well, I’ve always considered myself a Blackican. If #3 and I had children, what would they be?” I thought about it a minute and said “Whack Japicans? Or maybe just WHACK?” He thought that was hilarious. He is a picture of the two of them together when they were younger:
Am I right or am I right? Yes?
Which brings me to my children. My husband’s mother is Japanese. His father… well… was adopted so we really don’t know other than Caucasian. I think I have a melting pot of an ethnic background and I’m not sure WHAT I am so I just consider myself a Heinz 57 or a mutt. I have at different times heard Irish, Spanish, Native American, maybe French, or German? I really am not sure. I just know that I think my kids are beautiful and they have just enough of a blend of our ethnicities to make them sort of mysterious.
When my oldest was a baby, I had gone home to Virginia for a week to visit without hubby and one of my mom’s friends from her work came by to see #1. I guess she didn’t realize that hubby was ½ Japanese because looking at #1 she quipped “Ya know, if I didn’t know better I’d swear this baby was part Oriental!” I said, “That’s because she is!” My mom’s friend was like “Oh, I’m so sorry!” I’m not sure WHAT she was sorry about, or if she thought she had insulted me, but I like the fact that they are part Asian and have always tried to instill in them a pride of their Asian heritage. My oldest will occasionally get complete strangers ask her “what she is”. The younger two don’t get it quite as much.
It’s funny the things (physical characteristics) they have “picked up” from each of us. My husband is very tall (I know this sounds stereotypical but too bad), especially for someone of Asian descent. He is almost 6’8” tall and has always been on the slender side. I am the shortest in my family. On a good day I say I’m 5’5”. I have NEVER been what you call on the slender side. I’d love to be taller and thinner, but, oh, well… My #1 looks (in her facial features) more like her dad but has more MY height and unfortunately for her, maybe more my body build. My #2 daughter looks just like I did, facially (in high school, I think) but with her dad’s height (she’s right at 6 ft) and body build. Our #3 daughter is probably a good blend of all of it. She is more blend between both their heights and body builds and facial features. She looks more Caucasian with a twist you can’t quite put your finger on unless you KNOW she’s part Asian.
And when they were born they all looked very much alike and #1 and #2 were virtually the same size when they were born. The same doctor delivered them both and he and the pediatrician were talking about it saying how it looked like I had delivered identical twins a year and a half apart! They were both 7 pounds, 13 ounces and 21 inches long with 14 in heads. The only difference was one’s abdomen was ½ bigger than the other. And number 3 weighed the most, was the shortest and ended up as a teenager much tinier than either of the other two were. Now as adults #1 and #3 are more on an even keel. Number 2 still has several inches in height on both of them. Here’s pictures of all three of them around the same age. Can you tell which is which? Take a stab at it and let’s see who get’s it right!
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